Harville Hendrix, the founder of Imago relationship therapy was interviewed by M.D. Caprario for LASPLASH.COM: Entertainment. Caprario mentioned that the media refers to Hendrix as the "marriage whisperer." In the interview, Hendrix commented that "most couples usually tend to focus on personal needs rather than relationship needs."

Given this orientation, Hendrix mentioned that couples tend to get divorced when the relationship does not meet the needs of the individual. Hendrix feels that most couples do not know how to create and sustain connection. He goes on to say that the "cure" for divorce is to train couples to focus on their relationship as a priority rather than individual need, in order to create what he and his wife, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, term the "conscious marriage." Couples need to learn how to have empathic attunement to one another in order to feel safely attached.

"Affairs occur because there is no secure emotional connection," Hendrix explained. "This stems from childhood, when there might have been inconsistent (parent) caretaking and no or little secure emotional connection. Affairs occur when intimacy produces anxiety." The key, he feels, to address infidelity is to create within the individual the capacity to connect without being frightened. This requires very special communication.

There are skills, insights, understanding, and practices that enhance the possibility that couples can stay in connection. Imago relationship therapy provides an opportunity for true dialogue, communication that is equal and without judgment. Hendrix indicates that "the purpose for such unions would be healing and wholeness of the individuals. But the modality would be the focus of the relationship and its care."

"In an ideal world," Dr. Hendrix feels, "relationship skills would be taught in school. They would be considered as important as spelling, writing, and mathmatics, etc."  That absent, Imago relationship therapy has programs and opportunities that couples need for change to happen.

Caprario, closed his article with the following: "Imagine a world in which no tabloid had a sex scandal or messy divorce to report. Imagine a world without road rage. Imagine a world without abuse, domestic violence, or rape, or even war. All of these begin with change in individual relationships and, ultimately, this creates for us a perspective to better interact with and respond to the rest of the world."